Non custodial father

Nor are things as they are portrayed. When a photographer takes a picture of a person they find the "right" light, look, side, and makeup. What was completely true is now a beautiful lie. Our society has been believing every word of the news they see on TV. Hey, if it's on the news, it's gotta be true. But wait, how many times does a parent explain to their child "What you see on TV is not real"? The news is a franchise, sex sells, violence sells, lies sell. Have you seen these "reality shows"? there is nothing real about them except they ALL get paid.

A father who wants to be in his kids lives is truth. If he is a non-custodial parent, he will most likely be in store for a rough legal battle if things go sour with visitation, and he wants justice - him against the mother, mothers attorney, state, the children's Guardian Ad Litum (GAL), the deputy juvenile officer (DJO), the DJO's attorney, and the children's division. 

The father will sit at a table with his lawyer (if he can afford one), and look over to his right and see two tables with seven people glaring at him. Then theres the judge who is supposed to be impartial, but if mom accuses father of spanking the children too hard, good by children. Mother is granted custody, father is granted monitored visitation at a neutral location, and child support is ordered, counseling, therapy, parenting classes, all to rehabilitate the "dead beat dad" who just wanted to be more in his children's lives.

There are dead beat dads, don't get me wrong, but there are just as many dead beat moms. The children get stuck in these politics and suffer from depression, confusion, low self esteem, suicidal tendencies, early pregnancy, drugs and low grades or drop outs in school.

The children's division benefits from this because each father (even he who is erroneously labeled "dead beat dad") is now a statistic that can be used for increased funding next year, when funding is increased, there are pay raises, when there are pay raises, people at the top can buy another boat. Meanwhile, dad loses everything he worked so hard to get; his check is less, so now he can't afford rent, utilities, food and gas for his car. However, mom is just fine as she cashes that check on a convenient credit card look alike, and pays for a new acrylic set of nails and a $75 haircut before taking the kids to McDonalds so she can chat with her new boyfriend on the cell phone without the kids bothering her.

This is real. There are many people who see a father with his kids that say; "Oh, I wish more fathers were like that!" Most fathers ARE like that. And we're falling through the cracks. A bad apple ruins the whole bushel? What about the rest of the bushel? Tossed out with no concern? 

What are we to do?